Discover the mysteries of love in a relationship
For many of us, learning about love in a relationship has been one of lifes great mysteries. You’re not exactly given any insights from the birds and the bees scenario that your parents may have told you. Neither is there any insight from any other typical education sources when you’re growing up. There’s no help from society either which is today filled with romantic ideals in movies and pop songs and new age books about sex. It is indeed through our own experiences, good and bad, that we grab any piece of information about love. In this article, I am going to focus on two specific and very prominent views from the world today on how to find the right love. There are stark contrasts between the two, both highlighting the possible pitfalls from certain assumptions we make, that todays societies have imbeded in our minds as how love and relationships should work.
The Soul-Mate Relationship
One of the oldest traditions that is still very common today is the idea of a soul mate. Very popular in christianity, the idea is that two people share the same soul and love is infact this single soul living in two bodies being brought together. The main concept is that the meeting of these two souls to become one is the utmost form of a relationship. There are both pro’s and cons to this soul mate view. The pro’s being that while searching for your soul mate you are actually searching deep within yourself. Therefore creating a better understanding of who you really are. The cons being that no relationship can last for all time and the realisation of which can be quite a come down.
Relationships that are pre-arranged
The second tradtion I am going to mention is that of an arranged marriage. Lets not confuse this with forced marriage. Arranged marriages occur with the general agreement of all members of the family. This type of relationship involves no getting to know one another before embarking on a life together. Instead partners love for each other is said to grow day by day. Again there are both positives and negatives from this. The concept that partners love will grow can be very healthy and stop any misinterpreted hopes of grand romantic gestures etc that are shown to us in the movies. The negatives of this though are that unfortunately some parents use this as an opportunity for their own gains in family politics and do not have their childs best interests at heart.
What can we use from these examples to help us in future relationships
So if you are not even more unsure after reading this then I hope you can see we have a lot to learn from these two examples. It is a very common perception today that love is purely about romantic gestures and what we have seen from films is how love really is. It is, in actual fact far from the only way, as these two examples show and it is very important that we realise this and not set ourselves up for disappointment if we don’t get it.